What's something you're really, really good at? Something you do <bing!> second nature, you don't think about it, you just do it. Something that you've probably been doing a really long time and have developed into a fine art?
Know what that is for you?
Wanna know what mine is?
Comparing myself to other people.
No joke. I'm really good at it.
And it's really, REALLY bad for me. This habit of mine turns me into the WORST version of myself. It makes me angry and ungrateful and sad and jealous. Like I said, it's bad for me. And it's bad for you too.
I learned a long time ago that the things I need to work on the most become my best content for teaching. This past weekend I had the chance to speak to a group of amazing women about this topic, this habit, this ability we all have to compare ourselves to others.
I won't repeat the talk for you here but I will show you my notes. Read these, throw in some oversharing by Jenné about my pajama pants and my unshaved legs and basically you were there.
If I had to boil down all the learning I've had through the years on this topic, I think the number one key to fixing this in your life is knowing and living your true purpose.
(oh, just that?)
Bottom line: if you are going to stop engaging in unhealthy habits like comparing yourself to everyone else, you're going to have to move closer to the best version of you. At some point, you're going to have to discover why you are here.
What's your purpose?
It does you no good to shy away from the question.
Ask it. Ask yourself. Be brave enough to ask yourself why you are here and answer this question:
When you are at your best, what do you do, for whom, and why?
It's that simple and it's that complicated.
And the answer will change your life.
I believe in you!